In life’s toughest moments, how do you go on living? Kate Bowler has been exploring this question ever since she was diagnosed with stage IV cancer at age 35. In a profound, heartbreaking and unexpectedly funny talk, she offers some answers — challenging the idea that «everything happens for a reason» and sharing hard-won wisdom about how to make sense of the world after your life is suddenly, completely changed. «I believe that in the darkness, even there, there will be beauty and there will be love,» she says.
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It is given that her speech is certainly profound and poetic. However, I also acknowledge how favorable and understandable her voice is – with those genuine emotions. I love this. I love you, Kate. I hope you know how wonderful your soul is.
That means dumb girls travel around the city for no reason is the most true love.
I think we should pay more attention to women and ban these prostitution.
الحياه هي نصف المعادله والنصف الآخر هي الحياه الاخره بعد الموت
هذه الحياه هي العمل و الابتلاء والتعب والمرض
والحياه الاخره هي الجزاء والعدل والنعيم والحساب
when she still manages to be funny while delivering such a profound talk. i was ironically crying sad tears while laughing. her words are definitely what I needed today.
Hello!
Thank you!
Things happen without reason. Trusting god is a dangerous game
So touching. I can't help how much my tears fall down
brought me to tears 😭
Thank you very much.
wow, thank you
This was beautiful !
Amazing brought me to tears … love has always been my courage and when the fear finds it way in I look at my daughter and know no matter what, love has given me a gift and I must be thankful no matter the situation !! No one has ever said life would be easy only that is is a journey and sometimes that journey is overwhelmed and heartbreaking. I try to embrace all of it good or bad and be stronger and braver to live the life I am meant to have.. whatever that path may be❤️
People die, people get sick, all we can do is let go of the negative and bring them the sunshine like it's their last day, celebrate their birth and their achievements and the love and that you got to say goodbye without regret. I didn't get the chance to say goodbye, but live as you soar, let it give you the beautiful moments you get.
I feel offended by how much you single Americans out, you don't express other cultures. Glad your alive, not all Americans are categorized into the same cliques. Not all believe in christianity, not all believe and act the same things. I live each day for my dreams and my daughter, To see her grow up. I don't believe in a hidden plan, nor there's a reason why things happened. Just life dies once it reaches it's peak, or it's end.
Yes, miracles can happen if only love exists.
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" It is very difficult, particularly for the Western mind, to understand that life is purposeless. And it is beautiful that it is purposeless. If it is purposeful then the whole thing becomes absurd — then who will decide the purpose? Then some God has to be conceived who decides the purpose, and then human beings become just puppets; then no freedom is possible. And if there is some purpose then life becomes businesslike, it cannot be ecstatic.
The West has been thinking in terms of purpose, but the East has been thinking in terms of purposelessness. The East says life is not a business, it is a play. And a play has no purpose really, it is nonpurposeful. Or you can say play is its own purpose, to play is enough. Life is not reaching towards some goal, life itself is the goal. It is not evolving towards some ultimate; this very moment, here and now, life is ultimate.
Life as it is, is accepted in the East. It is not moving towards some end, because if there is some end who will decide the end and why? If God decides it, then you can ask the same question about God: “What is the purpose of creating a world with purpose?” or, “Why should he create a purposive world?” or even more deeply, “What is the purpose of God’s existence?”
Maybe life has a purpose and God decides the purpose, but then God’s existence has to be questioned — why he exists — and that way the question is simply pushed one step ahead. Then God becomes purposeless, or you have to create another God to decide the purpose of this God. Then you will be in a regress ad infinitum, then there is no end to it. Somewhere deep down you will have to come to the conclusion that this phenomenon is purposeless; otherwise there is no end.
So why go from the world to the God? Why not say that life itself is purposeless? The whole game of logicians, theologicians, is stupid in a way. They say, “God created the world, because how could the world come into existence if there was no one who created it?” But the question can be asked, “Who created the God?” — and then they fall on their own. They say, “God is uncreated.” If God can exist without being created, why can’t this life itself exist without being created? If you accept that something is possible without being created, then what is the trouble? Then why think about a God who created the world?
The East says God is not the creator, God is the creation. Nobody has created it, it is there. It has been so always, it will be so always — sometimes manifest, sometimes unmanifest; sometimes visible, sometimes invisible. It goes on moving in a periodical rhythm, in a circle. But existence itself is uncreated and it has no goal.
Then think about it in other ways also. Firstly, if there is a goal why hasn’t it been achieved yet? The existence has been existing timelessly, millions and millions of light-years it has existed, and the goal has not been reached yet. When will it be reached? If so many millions and millions of light-years have passed and the goal is nowhere to be seen, when will it be reached? Secondly, if some day the goal is reached, what will happen to existence? Will it disappear? When the purpose is fulfilled, then what? Conceive of a moment somewhere in the future when the purpose is fulfilled: for what will existence exist then? Then it will be purposeless for it to exist.
The reality is this: that it is already always purposeless. There is no goal towards which the existence is moving. It is moving, but not towards any goal. It has a value, but the value is not in the end, the value is intrinsic."
Ehhh disagree with everything I think people are just very attached to their life as they don’t think there is something beyond it
Not that u aren’t going to experience suffering but that’s inevitable
And also we as humans like to label everything as “good” or “bad” but who are we to say we can’t see how something that happens to us effects the rest of our lives or others eyes we can’t always see from the highest perspective
"Life is beautiful but life is hard"
The old story of Job and his friends….
No prosperity gospel in the bible.